End-of-Life Issues: Starting the Conversation
Back in November, 60 Minutes tackled a controversial and timely topic: “The Cost of Dying,” and the topic has stuck with me. That’s because end-of-life issues are taking a more prominent place in discussions about health care.
As per the report, Medicare paid $50 billion for doctor and hospital bills during the last two months of patient’s lives – an amount that surpasses the budgets for the Department of Homeland Security and the Department of Education. About 20 to 30 percent of these expenses have no meaningful impact; most bills are paid by the federal government – no questions asked.
Few issues are as undeniably bipartisan as death/dying, yet the way we go about the process (i.e. hospice & palliative care, ventilators, feeding tubes, etc.) and paying for care at the end of life has become highly politicized. Everyone will ultimately face death, albeit in different ways and at different times. So how can the federal government rein in costs like the aforementioned $50 billion? Check out the article for deeper analysis of this thorny topic.
Dr. Ira Byock, who treats and counsels patients with advanced illnesses, puts it plainly in the 60 Minutes report:
“Families cannot imagine there could be anything worse than their loved one dying. But in fact, there are things worse. Most generally, it’s having someone you love die badly.”
Sort of changes your whole perspective on death/dying, doesn’t it?
Although it’s an uncomfortable subject, family members should definitely hash out these action plans, especially when they are gathered together, before they find themselves facing a tough situation. So when the Sunday dinner plates have been packed away, call the family members back to your home to talk about it. It may be difficult to get the dialogue rolling – who wants to break the ice on that subject? – but these conversations are absolutely crucial. If you ever find yourself pacing through the ER or the ICU while a loved one is in limbo, you won’t feel quite as helpless if you know your loved one’s wishes.
Ever heard of Five Wishes? Check out http://www.agingwithdignity.org/five-wishes.php for an excellent tool that makes discussing your wishes for the end-of-life much more palatable. Five Wishes lets your family and doctors know:
- Who you want to make health care decisions for you when you can’t make them.
- The kind of medical treatment you want or don’t want.
- How comfortable you want to be.
- How you want people to treat you.
- What you want your loved ones to know.
Also, revisit last year’s Seniors for Living post on “The D-Word: Discussing Death” for more ideas on starting this complicated yet critical conversation in your home.
-Michelle Seitzer

Understanding the ins and outs of Medicare is about as easy as understanding nuclear physics. And now that the annual open enrollment period has closed for 2009, some may be scratching their heads regarding the changes to coverage that they have elected – or perhaps what changes they missed out on. While some did not need to do anything (provided that their coverage was working for them and hadn’t changed), hundreds of options were available during this period. Although we don’t know what the future of Medicare may hold, let’s take a look at these options in preparation for the next open enrollment period and clarify what changes have been put into effect.
The health care reform buzz may be front and center in the news these days, but with so many media outlets and so many opinions, it’s not easy to keep up. And yet it is most certainly an issue that many of us are watching with great concern and curiosity.
Vice President Joe Biden chairs a task force called
Health reform is one of the hottest topics on the federal docket right now, and as to be expected, the range of opinions and proposals on how to do it right further intensifies the debate. And who could forget the $1 trillion price tag from the Congressional Budget Office?
There will come a day when your aging parent may need someone to handle his or her care, and that someone will very likely be you. In fact, many adult children expect that such a day will come when they must assume responsibility for their parents’ well being. After all, that’s the circle of life, and morally the right thing to do. Of course, what happens when you’re not on speaking terms with a parent? Or when you’re already maxed out financially and physically caring for your own family? What if someone was to tell you that it’s too bad — you’re legally responsible to deal with your parents, no matter what?


