Certainly there are communities that may not be the right fit for your family member, or places where the care is not at the level of quality you’d prefer. However, as you start your search, keep these good things in mind:
- People care about you there. If your Mom doesn’t show up for breakfast, the staff who normally serve her at the table, and the residents who sit with her, will notice. If she currently lives at home alone, not showing up to breakfast won’t immediately trigger a check-in or concern.
- You’re in good company. Though some seniors will say they don’t want to live around “all those old people,” there is an inherent comfort in living among peers who are facing similar life challenges. Some older adults may find this arrangement preferable to living with their busy adult children and grandkids, where they might feel as if they’re in the way, or a burden.
- You get a little bit of help. The help offered in assisted living is just enough to make life easier (say goodbye to doing dishes or worrying about falling in the shower), but you can maintain a level of independence too.