It seems like a simple thing: Dad wants to stay at home, so you bring in home care. Unfortunately, it’s not always a straightforward process. The cost can be a challenge, but what families also underestimate is the transition. Even though Dad doesn’t move out, a new person is moving in to the mix; a stranger is entering your family’s home and will soon become familiar with how your family operates, for better or worse. The first few weeks can be a bit uncomfortable as the care provider, your father and other involved family members get to know each other. This can cause tension and stress that you may not anticipate.
This is not to discourage you from choosing home care. If you can cover the cost and find a good provider, it is a wonderful option (truly, there’s no place like home). However, it is important to be prepared for the challenges that may lie ahead, at least at the beginning of the relationship.
Clear communication is so vital in this stage and throughout the relationship. Your father should make his preferences known from the start — favorite foods, what time he likes to go to bed, when he eats breakfast, how he folds his clothes — to prevent conflict and build understanding.