Your mother recently moved to an assisted living community, and you haven’t visited yet. Now that flights are considerably cheaper and the holiday rush is over, you’re thinking of getting tickets and heading out to see her. Although you keep in touch with her on a regular basis, you’re a little nervous about what to do when you see her in person.
Consider these tips for easing the nerves triggered by time and space between long distance caregivers and their family members:
- Use a checklist to plan your visit. This one from Easy Living, Inc., a senior care company based in Florida, is a helpful model, offering advice on what to do before and during your visit.
- Imagine you’re at Mom’s (because you are). Yes, it’s a different location, but this assisted living apartment has become her home. Treat it that way, and act as you would if you were in the home she lived in for years.
- Do something fun together. If you’re concerned about awkward lulls in the conversation, plan an activity. It doesn’t have to be anything complex, and you’ll certainly want to check with Mom on her preferences and comfort level, but watching a movie, enjoying a cup of tea, taking a walk, or looking at old photos together are all good possibilities.
Need more visiting ideas and inspiration? Check out 10 Things to Do During an Assisted Living Visit.