Then you think: I should visit dad in assisted living.
Pretty soon, you’re visiting your loved one based on guilt or obligation, and dreading the thought of ditching your robe and slippers to drive to the assisted living community. It doesn’t have to be this way: why not plan ahead so that you actually look forward to your weekend time together?
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Surprise them. No, I’m not suggesting you show up announced — unless you’ve checked with the staff ahead of time to be sure your friend or relative is around and ready for a visit. Bring your Mom flowers just because. Bring Dad the latest issue of his favorite magazine. Bring your son, granddaughter, or your parent’s best friend along for the trip. Do something unexpected, and expect to feel pretty happy about seeing the joy it brings.
- Make a regular date. Every third Sunday, go to the movies. Every other Saturday, hit your favorite diner for breakfast. Once a month, check the newspaper for a fun local event to attend together. Take a walk around the campus together, or go to an area park and “people-watch.”
- Learn something new together. Learn a new language. Teach each other how to use new apps on the iPad. Take an art class that may be offered at the assisted living community.
Your turn: How do you make visits with your loved one(s) in assisted living meaningful?