Preparing for Senior Care Conversations During the Holidays: Part 2

By Michelle Seitzer / Posted on 26 October 2012

Yesterday’s post offered advice on considering assisted living options — or at least starting the conversation about it — during the upcoming holiday season. Not sure where or how to begin? Consider these helpful tips:

  1. Approach the subject with sensitivity and respect. Talk to your parents first and get a sense of what they want before you bring everyone to the table.
  2. Make a list of the things your loved one wants in a senior care home. Is your Mom a very private person, or a social butterfly? Choose a setting that best supports her preferences. Is help with housekeeping a top priority? Make sure the facility offers those services on a regular basis.
  3. Search for assisted living communities that correspond with your loved one’s preferences (and budget). Call to schedule in-person visits at the top three choices.
  4. Most people are new to the world of elder care when they first enter it, so it’s essential to know what assisted living-related questions to ask. Bring your questions along for the tours/visits.
  5. Talk to other staff members and residents when touring the assisted living homes on your list.
  6. Have a meal at the communities you visit. Consider the atmosphere of the dining room, the courtesy of the staff, and the variety of menu offerings in addition to the quality and freshness of the food.
  7. Visit during the “off” times to get a sense of how the facility is managed and staffed outside of the 9-5 frame.


Get more advice and tips on making a senior care decision here.


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