A lull in the conversation, an awkward silence, a discussion about a subject that leaves the engaged at odds. All of us at one time or another have experienced the frustrations of strained communication, and it is especially challenging when a family member or dear friend is involved.
These blips and hiccups may happen after a loved one has moved to assisted living. Family and friends who come to visit feel uncomfortable in the new setting, or are saddened by the changes that required the transition. Some may have unresolved resentment or lingering rifts regarding the move (i.e. a brother who is angry at his sister for moving Mom into assisted living, or a father frustrated by the decision his adult sons made in recommending the move). The emotions tend to hinder the once natural flow of conversation. Many resort to small talk: how was lunch? did you play Bingo yesterday? are you sleeping well? Simple yes or no answers, no discussion. The proverbial crickets start chirping, the silence makes everyone uneasy, and the guest leaves in less than an hour. Both feel dissatisfied with the visit.
It doesn’t have to be this way. You can still have meaningful visits with your friend or relative in assisted living. Check out these posts for practical tips:
- How to be a Good Visitor in Assisted Living
- Tips for Talking to Seniors in Care Settings
- Tips for Visiting a Loved One in a Senior Care Community