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New Ways to Show Love on Valentine’s Day

By Michelle Seitzer / Posted on 09 February 2012

Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and I imagine that boyfriends, partners and husbands everywhere are anxiously awaiting the end of those pesky jewelry and floral delivery ads bombarding them at every turn.

Commercialism aside, there is nothing wrong with taking a day to celebrate the people in your life that you love. And if that includes a special senior, don’t delay.

Two days before my grandmother died, I thought about giving her a call just to say hello (plus I loved hearing her Brooklyn-Italian accent). Instead I thought, “She’ll be around,” and decided not to call. I had a lot of guilt to sort through after that experience, and now I make certain that when special people, especially older people, are brought to mind, I do something about it. ASAP. Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not.

Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to show love. This year, I challenge you to break out of the heart-shaped box and show love in a new way. Here are a few ideas to get you started…

New Way to Show Love #1 Think of a story you want to share with someone you love, then share it.
“Listening Is an Act of Love” is the appropriate title of a book by StoryCorps founder Dave Isay, in which Isay compiles some of the most remarkable stories to have been shared in the StoryCorps booth. (If you don’t know what StoryCorps is, get the scoop here.) I really love that title, because I think it encompasses a great truth: sharing a story, whether simple or complex, is a special exchange. The act of listening to someone else’s story — and the act of telling it to someone whom you’ve specifically chosen to share it with — is a profound expression of love. Whether you go to an official StoryCorps booth or not doesn’t matter. Just tell your story (or listen to one).

 

New Way to Show Love #2Create a (digital or physical) keepsake box.
Put a few treasured items together (photos, letters, trinkets, ticket stubs) with a special person in mind. Deliver the keepsake box when you feel the time is right (you can reminisce about the items together, or allow the person to enjoy perusing them on her own), or include instructions about the box’s intended recipient in your will.

If you prefer to do it digitally, a new company, iLivediLoved, will securely store the keepsake box (filled with your photos, audio recordings, home videos, and personal letters) so that, even after you’ve passed away, your loved ones can access the memories you wanted to share with them. “iLivediLoved is all about giving people the chance to be remembered the way they want to be remembered,” says Kristin Mick, iLivediLoved’s co-founder. Another plus: the digital treasure box can be shared for generations to come.

In a prior post, we wrote about P.S. I Love You Letters, a company that offers another new way of showing love to your family members: through handwritten letters that will only be delivered after you’ve passed away. Imagine reading a letter from a beloved family member a few weeks after their death. I have the chills just thinking about it.

 

New Way to Show Love #3 — Show random acts of kindness.
Showing love to strangers is a good way to foster the expression of love in your own family. So this year, why not buy a dozen roses for your neighbor who recently lost her husband? Or bring chocolates to an assisted living resident who doesn’t get regular visitors? If you have young children or grandchildren, make an activity of creating your own valentines to hand-deliver to a local women’s shelter or charity organization of their choosing (check out our friend and self-dubbed “granny nanny” Kaye Swain’s blog, SandwichINK, for artistic inspiration).

Your turn: How will you show love in a new way, either on or beyond February 14th?

There are 2 Comments about this post

  1. Kaye Swain says,

    What a great article! And now, guess what, we’re starting to read each other’s minds! :) I popped over here to visit in general and to see if you had anything specific for Valentine’s Day that I could share at SandwichINK tomorrow (Saturday) for my Valentine Online Blog Party post that I’m working on. Not only do you have this interesting and welcoming post full of great Valentine ideas – but I’m in it! What a sweet treat and warm “online hug!” Thank you so much – and hugs all around. And see you at SandwichINK tomorrow :) . Happy Valentine’s Day!

    P.S. I can’t agree more about number 1! Our times are in God’s hands! I know this well. But I also know too well that we just don’t know what tomorrow will bring. So make the most of today with each one we love! And I’m off to do just that first thing this morning. Thanks for the terrific reminder!

     

    on 10 February 2012 / 7:40 AM

     
  2. Thank you, Kaye! That is too funny. You know what they say about great minds! ;)

    Always happy to give you an “online hug!” You’re welcome…and thanks in advance for sharing the post love on SandwichINK as well.

    A happy Valentine’s Day to you!

    That’s right! Make the most of each day with the ones you love. You’re most welcome. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your sweet comments. :)

     

    on 10 February 2012 / 12:23 PM

     
 

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