Caregiving isn’t for wimps. The experience is rife with difficult decisions, which is what we talked about in the latest installment of #ElderCareChat.
Kicking off the discussion was a dialogue about what makes decisions of any kind (caregiving-related or not) difficult. Prime culprits were conflicting emotions like guilt, anger, grief, and resentment; fear of the unknown, and unknowable outcomes; and since few of us make decisions in a vacuum, differences of opinion among those involved in/affected by the decision-making process. @PaulFalkowski1 gave this great “in-a-nutshell” answer:
- @PaulFalkowski1, “Making decisions for someone you care deeply for, wanting to do the very best for them, makes decisions hard.” #eldercarechat
When it comes to caregiving decisions, particularly those of the elder care kind, making choices about end-of-life/advanced directives topped the “extremely difficult decisions” list. A good reminder for all those in attendance came from @AgingWisely:
- @AgingWisely: “Hopefully we all walk the walk & have talked to our families about desires, preferences, etc. as our gift to them.” #eldercarechat
Getting a second opinion – or saying no to a medical professional regarding a recommended treatment or medication – was another complex decision cited by chat participants. Many shared personal stories about their experiences with this sticky situation, and @rightathomeus described it well:
- @rightathomeUS: “The balance between physicians and family can be a constant tug of war.” #eldercarechat
Other highlights included the following:
- @SeniorCounselor: “The decisions made while caregiving can often be the most difficult decisions in your lifetime.” #eldercarechat
- @ElinSilveous: “Advance Directives, POLST & Durable Power of Attorney are huge gifts elders can give to caregivers.” #eldercarechat
- @seniorsguides: “If one is not cognizant of those emotions at play, I can’t see how any decision following can be good.” #eldercarechat
- @CaringWise: “Education can help build consensus; it can also give you the courage to know you are making the best choice possible.” #eldercarechat
Got more to say about this topic? We encourage you to share your thoughts, continue a discussion thread started during the chat, or begin a brand-new conversation beyond the limits of Twitter’s 140 at our LinkedIn group.
Keep an eye on the #ElderCareChat hashtag for more details, and in the meantime, make plans to attend the next one: Wednesday, September 7th at 1pm EST.