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Love Where You Are, No Matter What Your Age

By Michelle Seitzer / Posted on 01 April 2010

Maybe it’s the space of more years from then until now – now that I’m 31 that lends itself to greater moments of nostalgia, but I certainly find myself reflecting more, reminiscing more, remembering those glimpses of younger years that come back when triggered by a song, photo, scent, or even just seeing a product in the grocery store (i.e. “My sisters and I used to eat those all the time when we were kids”).

Although those earlier years are full of fond memories for me, I don’t think I’d go back if I had the chance. There are special people whom I wish were still here, but I am happy with the stage of life I’m in. There are new challenges, but there were challenges back then and I’ve since overcome them. Re-living the past wouldn’t mean you only get to re-live the good stuff, right?

In early February, I had a lovely chat with a blogger on the other side of the world. Thanks to the wonders of Skype, I, in my living room in York, Pennsylvania, connected with Radha Sahar of Baby Boomer Girl, who makes her home in New Zealand. Radha was in her studio, and although it was about 2:00 in the morning there (“I’m an owl, and my man’s a lark,” she explained, in her charming Kiwi accent), she serenaded me with one of her newest songs on guitar.

Radha writes music about baby boomers, for baby boomers. She’s not interested in making music that is nostalgic, or reminiscent of boomer’s younger days. There’s plenty of that out there already. “I want to sing about what’s happening right now,” she said. Real-life stuff, the highs and lows, which are facing boomers in the present – new loves, weight gain, new adventures, forgetfulness, medications, grandchildren, and more. Check out the thought-provoking lyrics to “Growing Younger.”

She’s quite feisty too, and likes to think of herself as a “post feminist punk rocker,” kicking rocking chairs to the curb and carving her own niche by making the music of her generation. I think it’s fabulous. Sure, everyone loves an oldie but goodie now and then, but I’ve often wondered what kind of music they’ll be playing in nursing homes of the future, and Radha and I had a great discussion about that, too. The current generation of senior living community dwellers is probably still listening to Glenn Miller and the like, but when I get there, will they be playing Britney Spears? Madonna? The Jackson Five?

Radha attacks the issue of changing boomer bodies head on in her most recent post, Have a Body Like an Avatar Alien! Part 1. It’s a humorous yet insightful look at losing weight/toning up by caring for your body and the earth simultaneously, and “returning to your, natural, unrefined, radiant self.” I know that Baby Boomer Girl practices what she preaches. Do good, feel good, and embrace your new boomer body!

So many people absolutely dread the day when they get an AARP membership card in the mail. Just because it arrives doesn’t mean that life is over. Who knows? The boomer years, or even the golden years, could be some of the best years of your life. Why not look forward to that adventure? Sure, you could get cancer, or dementia – neither of which are desirable conditions – but you might not get either one, so it’s certainly not worth whittling away the present with worry. Sure, you might have to postpone retirement another five years. Maybe your body doesn’t look like an Avatar Alien anymore and it absolutely depresses you. But as I said earlier, each stage of life brings new challenges, and many new joys along with them we tend to forget about that part.

So love where you are, no matter what your age each stage of life is an adventure to be treasured, lived to the fullest, to be beautiful inside and out. And speaking of beautiful inside and out at any age, look for a future post on this amazing photojournalist, Robbie Kaye, and her fascinating project on senior women and their beauty rituals at http://twitter.com/BeautyofWisdom or http://beautyofwisdom-robbiekaye.blogspot.com/. Amazing stuff, and I have Radha Sahar (yes, even boomers/seniors use Twitter, and many use it better than this 30-something!) to thank for pointing me in Robbie Kaye’s direction.

Sound off! What do you love about being your current age that perhaps you didn’t expect?

-Michelle Seitzer

There are 7 Comments about this post

  1. Robbie Kaye says,

    Thank you Radha for sharing your music and words with all of us. You make growing older fun and remind us how beautiful we are at any age through humor and reality. Sing on!! Robbie Kaye

     

    on 01 April 2010 / 10:56 PM

     
  2. Thanks for the comment, Robbie Kaye!

     

    on 02 April 2010 / 10:27 AM

     
  3. Grampa Ken says,

    There are many advantages to reaching a ripened age.
    First, I got here didn’t I.
    People keep telling me that I’m looking good.
    There are no more TV reruns – there all new.
    Memory can be a problem but I can’t remember why.
    I get these eye floaters a lot. Last week I chased fruit flies around the kitchen and I’m not sure there were any.

    Being a senior is a time when you are able to say “I don’t care” about certain problems, perhaps problems that aren’t even problems. So many worries never materialize or fade away quickly, at any age, and worrying can be such a waste of time.

    Every season hath its pleasures;
    Spring may boast her flowery prime,
    Yet the vineyard’s ruby treasures
    Brighten Autumn’s soberer time.
    Thomas Moore (1779-1852)

     

    on 02 April 2010 / 1:52 PM

     
  4. Linda Snyder says,

    I learned this from you. The most pressing time that this came to bear, was at your college graduation . We were waiting for some relatives to arrive when the ceremony was about to begin. I had to choose to worry about where the relatives were, or enjoy watching my first born daughter graduate with her writing degree. I’m so glad I opted to be a part of the ceremony. (The relatives did eventually come)

     

    on 07 April 2010 / 5:02 PM

     
  5. Hi Michelle,

    What I do love about being my current age (61)is that I can use my time to do things mostly on my own pace and I have the freedom to decide what I do first or last or don’t do them at all, almost every day. And I have my loving family, husband and two sons, supporting me.And other family and friend far away I keep in contact with via the internet.
    I’ve met some “Glorious Heroes”, likeminded people, nice people on the internet and I’m building my relationship-web around the globe.

    I am aware that this is one of the two things most people would want more of in their live.

    I am very grateful for that. And I’m working on the second thing most people would want more of , if you ask them.

    I did expect this time in my life to come? But I didn’t expect not to get another job after losing my job 10 years ago.
    I totally enjoy my life and who I am and I am very grateful. I know Radha via Twitter.

    Deana Wilmink-Martina

     

    on 08 April 2010 / 8:13 AM

     
  6. Thanks, Deana, for your thoughtful response and for sharing the joys of your current life stage. Sounds like you are very content!

    And Mom, thanks for being my #1 fan always, and for sharing that story. I’m glad you chose the ceremony too. :)

     

    on 09 April 2010 / 2:48 PM

     
  7. Thanks for your great comments, Grampa Ken! That Thomas Moore quote is fantastic too.

     

    on 02 June 2010 / 9:24 AM

     
 

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